Postpartum

Oxen have now completed their two year cycle of power. Other signs may spread out their power years but not the Ox. When it’s not an Ox or Rat year, Oxen generally stick to the course that they chose during those two years. Maybe this is why the Ox is always worried that there isn’t enough time to complete all of the things they would like to do.

If you’re an Ox who is not finished with the changes yet, I want you to know they are still possible. You always have a choice. Just because it’s not as easy to change doesn’t mean you can’t. Knowing you, you’ve got something underway but you haven’t shared the news widely. It’s likely a long term project.

The Ox in 2022 has probably taken on a new role in the last couple of years, thinking that it would possibly be a position of power and prestige. For many an Ox, this is exactly what happened. Even so, now the Ox may feel uncertainty about their choice to commit to this particular gig. The Ox is going to be doing a lot of thinking about the commitments they made or didn’t make during the last two years. If your Ox is in the day branch, it could be your significant other is having second thoughts about commitment too. That’s what being in relationship is like isn’t it? You’re not the only one.

Your uncertainty wouldn’t be such a big deal if you didn’t feel like now there is no way to move yourself out of the place you’re in. Remember this is a feeling and not necessarily a reality. The Tiger energy penetrates and pokes you and your problem with commitment may be about that. The dynamic nature of the Tiger makes commitment scary. For the Ox, commitment is demanding and uncomfortable unless it’s routine. This year is asking you to get out of your comfort zone. Make spontaneity and flexibility part of your routine.

If you’re dissatisfied with your current situation, it’s likely because you have come to the conclusion that it is not as advertised. Maybe it’s not all bad, but the Ox has rules and a big one is fairness and fair play. If you want to thwart an Ox, just do them dirty. They may be hurt and angry, but they will also try to see it from your side, even though this only increases their frustration. Those are the rules.

In February, make a conscious decision to either grab the Tiger’s tail or hide out in plain sight. Whatever you do this month will set the tone for the year. I don’t think your efforts to fake cooperation will be helpful for you at all. Try to commit to a course of action or non action. This might be your year to read Melville’s short story Bartleby the Scrivener, that is, unless you’d prefer not to.

In July, because the Ox has a lot of rules, many of which are unspoken, the Ox will run into people who are irritated by them. The Ox maintains the expectation of everyone following their rules, regardless of what they make explicit. This is especially annoying to the Sheep, who put up with plenty of that kind of stuff last year. The Sheep sees rules as a prescription for belonging. You follow the rules, they have to let you in. Once you’re in, there are no rules. Those are the rules.

The Ox’s relationship to the Tiger (both neighbor and Year Boss), is one of the most fascinating of the Chinese Zodiac for several reasons. First of all, many don’t realize the deep bond these two signs are capable of sharing. Secondly, the Tiger has very few “predators”, but the Ox is one of them. Every hidden stem within the Ox and Tiger combines. These two signs can experience a deep understanding but I doubt it’s warm and fuzzy. The Ox is capable of taking over the Tiger at times, this year it’s the Tiger taking over the Ox. This relationship could be deeply intimate, overly controlling, or both at the same time. I wouldn’t call it love though, not unless someone cares to be responsible for the outcome.

Relationships in general may be rough for the Ox in 2022 because of disagreements about what commitment and compromise might look like. You may have lost interest in trying to keep certain relationships going, possibly your partner has too. While we only exist in relationship, that doesn’t mean romantic ones are the only ones that count, so cherish them all. Let go of any that are placeholders to make room for what you want.

The Sheep, who also has an “interesting” relationship with the Tiger, might not see the Tiger coming, but the Ox lives next door. What may strike the Ox to the core in 2022 is the sudden urge to retreat. That might not be the worst idea, but are you sure you are cut out for the rural life? With your position on the compass in 2022, you might be feeling like you can’t get back to a quiet place quickly enough. The feelings of the world are so noisy as to be overwhelming. It’s hard for you to sift out your feelings from those of others’ whether they are far or near, and I know you’re exhausted like everyone else. Know that those sacred and quiet moments of clarity will come. Let the feelings come and go as they may.

Feeling consumed by the Tiger? You have the tool to get yourself free. That’s your Metal. Since Metal is weak, this is doable but likely an uphill battle. Timing wise, make your move in May if you need to get free early on. Wait until the fall if you want it to be final.

Should you choose to leave your employer, take your knowledge and training and the opportunities you’ve had in the last two years and put them together to make the kind of business you want to do, or home in on the position you want. Prior to making any move to change the status quo, define what you want to get out of the change. What are your rules? Express the most important ones. Give all the unspoken ones a rest. Prioritize your demands. Define. Try writing your own job description.

If you are an Ox who has landed in the wrong place and need to stay for a bit, find your niche. Create space or wiggle yourself into one. Again, Metal is the tool you need to change your situation this year. Use your words as a tool to cut through obstacles. Shape the situation as much as you can. Lean on your persistence.

If nothing else satisfies, many Oxen can find satisfaction in spiritual pursuits where they have premises and ideals to follow. You are in the role of Nobleman this year and spirituality or religion may be a part of how you experience that. If people come to you for advice, it may be about more abstract concepts and philosophies. Be aware that the Water Tiger might tempt you to compromise your integrity, so be careful of offering your services as a coach unless you have specific training and plenty of experience. Consider that what you have to offer could be example more than advice.

If you need assistance, look to the Snake or the Rat who could use yours too. This is not the year to start things from scratch unless you’re a baker.

Amulet: Pig

Summary: Maintain status quo or ride the Tiger’s tail? Your call.

January: Sums up 2021. For finishing things; setting in place.
February: Grab the tail or retreat?
April: Break ups
May: Craft the words you need to get more wiggle room.
July: The yin version of the Tiger. Careful of being hidebound.
August-September: Use your words.
October: A small axe.
November-January: The tail of the Tiger. Take care with health.