A New Kind of Demanding

The Rabbits luck in 2022 has changed for the better.

Remember back in the Earth Pig month of November I told you to “Get acquainted with a new kind of demanding”? I think that was where this year of the Water Tiger began for you. Now everybody wants you. While being in demand might be something you think you should want, you also probably already know too much demand is uncomfortable and not necessarily good for your health or sleep. This is going to require some balancing for the Rabbit.

All those little things you do without anyone noticing, working behind the scenes to bring people together, are cherished. You make the experience special for others. We need to let you know this now in this moment when nothing is certain; to confirm all the love you give. Love is your currency and for the sake of it, many times you are willing to forego respect and acknowledgment of your agency. This is your year to balance out that pattern. If you are forgotten because you are always there – that’s just absurd isn’t it?

Rabbits are often used to being asked to give their attention to multiple recipients. They are often the best at multitasking too. The resilience of the Rabbit sometimes fools others about how depleting their demands might be. This year, people need your help to make and renew the connections we yearn for. They’re hoping you will introduce them to someone who might treat them they way you do. None of this is new. Expect to be in demand in the usual ways and expect more of it.

Since you have the power of charm even more than usual in 2022, I want you to consider using it on your own behalf. Use it to make space for yourself to grow into. Charmingly decline to continue doing the same old things you have always done. You’ll be doing others a favor by letting them learn to clean up their own messes. They know that you know who made the mess, so you don’t really have to say anything about that. Just focus on yourself.

Unfortunately, Rabbits are used to being asked to do more for less, you know, like a Mother. This is the year to ask for an equal exchange of energy. There are subtleties to this, for example, an equal exchange might not be proportionate if you get my meaning. It depends on how much you have to give. Those who have more give more. Those who have less give less. The exchange is still equal.

The Rabbit’s special talent this year is the ability to fix mistakes. That will require some exposure, which may not be the most happy place for the Rabbit so maybe you’ll be relieved to know that most of your work can be done by way of forgiveness, giving and receiving. If the mistake was yours, get it out in the open where you can correct it. This might involve misinformation or disinformation that took you in.

In the context of others, let them fix their mistakes with your guidance, but don’t do it for them. This is what the timing favors. Allow them to fix it. Just because people come to you for advice doesn’t mean they really need it – they might just want attention. Learn to discern what is wanted and what you want to do about it rather than moving immediately to compliance. December could be tricky when it comes to this skill.

Maybe in the past you told yourself that your ambitions were not as important as everyone else’s. Someone had to stay small, to keep their own aspirations small to make room for everyone else’s big ones. At the time you made that decision to stay small, it made so much sense, didn’t it? I think this is good timing for changing your mind about that. The genuine importance of what you do makes others’ estimation of your gravitas irrelevant. In your heart I think you already know this, but if you’re hungry for recognition and acknowledgment, grow bigger.

The Water Tiger is going to require you to put out some new shoots and branches, so do keep in touch with your roots. I expect your ancestors have been a big focus for you during this three year winter we’ve just gone through. Come forward and renew relationships with your parents now while feelings on both sides are calmer if you want that. Don’t wait until 2023 when it may not be as easy. Come out and show those hidden stems.

What I mean by that is, the Rabbit consists of 10 parts yang Wood and 20 parts yin Wood. In a sense, the Rabbit always has access to the Tiger’s kind of energy but they mostly use it to prop others up while the Tiger generally uses it to take up more space. The Tiger year will bring out the Yang wood more forcefully so take the opportunity to stretch out and show how tall you really are.

The stretching I’m describing has to do with the tension between continuing to do what you’ve always done for others and your possible anger at being taken advantage of which could peak in March and December. What a Rabbit tends to do for others is what they like. That means giving them what they like so they will give you some peace, ignore you, leave you alone for a second, and leave off with their silent demands.

If that has been your way, now there may be some resentment about the opportunities you think you’ve missed, all the things you put aside, and the things you did that others were given credit for. Give yourself permission to reexamine what it is you think you need to do for others and the decisions you might have made about that. Are you up to date? Don’t forget your aspirations matter too.

This year, push yourself to walk this tightrope between your natural tendencies and becoming openly known as the agent you’ve always been. Stop putting off what you think you are too busy to do. This year, that might be writing, study and learning.

In 2022, there are people who are going to come together in the context of things you set in motion, and fall in love. That’s important. Will you let this be the year you recognize your own influence and how much it shapes the world? Take some credit for that. As you already know, the blame is free.

Don’t be afraid to make your own demands about safety and security instead of hiding in safe places where you can’t be questioned. If you withdraw, you’re going to miss the opportunities again. This is your choice, not anyone else’s.

Now, regarding romance, let’s get back to what I said about a new kind of demanding: your peach blossom energy is strong this year, especially in February, March, June, July, October and November. This means you’re going to need to sort through some suitors, romantically or otherwise. Don’t be satisfied with someone wanting you, wait for the one who respects you too and sees you for the influencer you are. Let that be part of your definition of love.

It’s not support you need to seek this year – that could be paralyzing. If you want change, trust that it’s a good time to come out of hiding.

Amulet: Pig
Rather than thinking of the amulet as something to use, or something to protect you, cultivate the idea of a partnership with the energy of the Pig. Have the boldness to know you can go and do things all on your own while still giving and receiving love.

Summary: What’s above you? What’s below you?

February, March, June, July, October and November: Everybody wants you.
April: Grow taller.
February and December: Asked to advise. Sort through “suitors”. Cultivate gratitude.
March: Your presence enables others to fix their own mistakes.
January, April, July, August, September, October: Money on your mind.